The Art of Listening

Adults. We talk a lot. We're not always the best listeners when it comes to children. It's part of our nature to want to solve problems and impart our own wisdom. To teach, really. When it comes to young children, there are times when we, as teachers of life, just can't help ourselves.

But learning when to bite our tongue can also be a very powerful - and challenging - exercise.

The other day a child came to school with a problem that needed to be solved. The swings are a very popular place on the playground - often having a line of four or five children long - and there was no good way to save one's place to go to the bathroom, get a coat, or grab a quick drink of water.

Being the great problem-solver that she already is, this child came to school with a plan. She had written out the names of five friends on separate pieces of paper to place on the swings as "placeholders" should the need arise.

Every fiber in my adult/teacher being wanted to point out the potential problems to this well-meaning child:
How are the other children going to feel that don't have placeholders?
But these pieces of paper won't hold up ten minutes in a Pacific Northwest downpour!
It's not okay to save swings in the first place!

I ended up commending her for her attention to the problem and her attempt to come up with a solution. Then I suggested we talk as a group about other possible solutions to the problem. Our meeting went something like this:

Me: Hannah noticed a problem on our playground. There's no good way to save your swing or place in line if you have to go to the bathroom. Does anyone else see this as a problem?

Everyone raises their hand.

Me: So do you think we should be able to save a swing? Even if there's a line of people waiting?

Everyone nods unanimously and excitedly. (This took every ounce of restraint not to point out the issues with this)

Student: You can save your place inside but you can't save your place outside! (Hmmmm....never thought about that)

Me: So this is obviously a problem. What are some ways that we can solve it?

Hannah (showing the name cards that she made) explains her idea (solution #1)

Student: My name isn't in there!

Hannah: I could make a card for everyone in the class. (solution #2)

Student: What about the sand timer? (solution #3)

Me: How would you use the sand timer to solve this problem?

Student shrugs his shoulders. A few others solutions were then discussed, including teachers saving spots for students - an idea that was quickly dismissed by students for being too impractical.

Me: Okay, so we agree that we all want to be able to save our swing. Do you see any potential problems with Hannah's pieces of paper? (Part of me wishes that I had encouraged them to use the papers to see how quickly they would fall apart but we were having such a good conversation at this point and I saw it as an opportunity to deepen their thinking even more).

Student: We could lose them.

Student: They could get wet.

Student: What about a beanbag instead? Everyone starts agreeing.

Me: Okay, so we'll use a beanbag to hold places in line. Do we all agree on this solution? An overwhelming agreement finalized the meeting.

Within only five minutes, a teacher-guided / student-led conversation had resulted in a real problem being solved. Students felt validated. Cooperation was rewarded. A feeling of mutual respect was instilled. And while I can still see the potential problems down the road (how long can you save a swing or place for?), they will be rich sources for authentic conflict resolution strategies.

I encourage you to bite your tongue the next time you are around children willing and wanting to solve a problem. Guide them to think critically. Encourage them to consider their peers' viewpoints. Challenge them to come up with - and stick to/reconsider - their solutions. Doing this will result in genuine and authentic learning that will lead to autonomous, empowered citizens of the world.

The Benefits of Sensory Play

Can I just tell you how much I love messy sensory play? Whenever we get our hands dirty at preschool - I mean really, really sticky and gooey - I get to experience the biggest smiles, the best questions, and the most articulate observations from my young scientists.

Plus, in what other point in life do you get the freedom to fully immerse yourself in the exploration of new materials using most of your senses without judgment? (And, in what point in life can you do this without needing to clean up the big mess that you make afterward?!).

Research shows that sensory play - with no preconceived knowledge or expectations - is critical during the early childhood years. As children work together and talk through the process of exploring new materials, cooperative and problem-solving skills are promoted as well as essential opportunities for linguistic development. For example, some children might love the different textures while their friend does not. Or a friend might describe a substance using completely different words or phrases. Oftentimes, we need to take turns or even share materials throughout the process, which requires complex conversational and problem solving skills. As a result, children begin to see that others may have different viewpoints than their own and start to develop a rich vocabulary that can then be transferred to others areas of learning.

When students are encouraged to make authentic observations, their cognitive abilities to make decisions, ask questions, and reflect on their learning are sharpened. Inquiry and evaluation are naturally embedded in the sensory play process. Because of its appeal to 'test the limits' for some children, the self control 'muscle' is also exercised rigorously during sensory play.

Sensory play also encourages fine motor development. Sometimes materials are small and hard to catch. They might have a texture that makes simply picking them up difficult (water beads are amazing). Sometimes materials change from liquid to solid, which requires a considerable amount of hand strength to pull apart (oobleck is tons of fun). Whatever the experience, sensory play is essential in developing the pincer grasp and hand strength necessary for future writing.

For me, the creative aspect of sensory play is what it's truly all about. Process-based activities provide the open-ended learning experiences that children need to gain confidence in the classroom and in life. While I take certain precautions to ensure that students are comfortable (setting out aprons, providing spoons for the reluctant learner), I think it's incredibly important to allow young children to immerse themselves in these sensory experiences with few limitations.

When we restrict play ("Don't get your clothes messy!") or place our own labels on learning experiences ("Yuck! I don't like that stuff!"), we are essentially robbing children of necessary opportunities to develop confidence, autonomy, and self efficacy in all areas of development (cognitive, linguistic, physical, and social/emotional). On the other hand, when we allow children to explore their world with wholehearted enthusiasm (or not), we send the message that exploration and higher thinking is important. We give the child the power to place value on the learning experiences. Those 'little things,' like dirty clothes, aren't that big of a deal.  Establishing a love for learning, play, creativity, and thinking outside the box IS a big deal. That's what I want my students to take away from the sensory experiences that I provide in the classroom.

We made our own 'moon dust' this week. We started with baking soda and described our observations using four of our senses. Someone suggested that moon rocks are grey, so we added some tempera paint. Someone else suggested they sparkle, so in went the glitter. We added water to add some texture to our moon rocks. How about we make them explode? The children were more than happy to oblige by adding vinegar to their tubs of goo. Overheard during the process:

"Whoa! It's hard like concrete!"

"I wish I could take this home!"

"Look! It's alien goo!"

"This kinda reminds me of pudding."

"It's making craters! Like the moon!"𑂽


More reading on the subject of sensory play in early childhood:

Look, Listen, Touch, Feel, Taste: The Importance of Sensory Play

Why is Sensory Play so Important? (this article provides some great home opportunities for sensory play)

Developing and Cultivating Skills Through Sensory Play

Gun Play

We are working on storytelling right now which always brings up the age old question of gun play at school. Preschool-aged children - particularly boys, but not always - are like moths to a flame when it comes to guns. Research is all over the place as to why this occurs - whether it be an innate feeling to experience power, exposure to violence in the home, and/or influence of the media and other toys. Whatever the reason(s) may be, this fascination comes out in stories and all kinds of play.

Now, where we live, guns are kind of a taboo topic. Most people shudder at the thought of weapons of any sort - especially around young children - because they go against their core family values. Many consider guns to promote violence and suggest an ill will towards others. Perhaps parents worry that their gun-loving child may become a gun-loving adult.

Can we support a child's social and emotional growth and learning through play but tell them that certain topics should not be explored? How do we support students who do not like playing "with" guns when this play is all around them?

My own philosophy of violent play at school has changed throughout the last few years. Currently, I approach gun play at preschool in much the same way that I approach other "rules" in the classroom - to provide the tools for the children themselves to determine what should be allowed and what should not. While I used to have a "no guns" rule at school, I've found that this really didn't accomplish much at all. Rather, having a zero tolerance for guns actually created a significant increase in negative attention to those who often played this way - particularly, boys.

Reminding students about the two rules we came up with as a class - we are kind and we are safe - during gun play allows them the chance to decide if it should be permitted. For example, when a group of children are up on the boat 'shooting' their unconsenting peers below, we can talk about how we have the right to feel safe at school and, therefore, the game needs to change directions. On the other hand, when a group of children are playing 'good guys and bad guys' (which is another post entirely), and everyone feels safe playing the game, the game continues as is.

Sometimes these scenarios can be a little tricky, of course. Like the time a child was insisting he was shooting "love arrows" at everyone. Sigh.

Personally, I hate guns and find myself cringing when children shoot at each other. However, I also consider gun play to be developmentally appropriate within the preschool classroom and, therefore, must work hard to separate these conflicting beliefs. With proper modeling of non-violent behavior, sensitivity to those who prefer not to play this way, and open communication with families, I believe there can be a place for violent play in the early childhood setting.

Just Breathe

Holiday parties. Elves on the shelves. Christmas trains. Visits to Santa. Shopping and lines (and lines and more lines). Concerts and musicals. Holiday movies. House guests. And who can forget the gifts?

The holidays are an exciting time and we are so lucky to live in a smallish community that prides itself on its many offerings for family entertainment.

As a parent to young children myself, I know that I can definitely get caught up in the spirit of the holidays.

I also wholeheartedly believe in the importance of taking the time to reflect on our own families, their needs, and what is really important based on our own unique family values. Some children do just fine with changes in routines. For others, a bombardment of extra people, social activities, and high expectations can result in some undesirable behaviors.

How do you do with the holiday excitement? Do you find joy in the activities and find yourself generally happier during December? Do you find yourself stressed out by the high expectations? Do you feel pressure to maintain certain holiday traditions or are you able to let go?

The reason I ask these questions is that children pick up on our emotional cues much more than we think they do. When we exhibit an excessive amount of stress and worry and anxiety, our children internalize (and then externalize) these behaviors. In the preschool crowd, this often manifests itself in extra tiredness, tantrums, irritability, and a general decreased ability to work through problems with their peers.

Of course, this is not to say that we, as parents, should hide all of our negative emotions from children. Being 'perfect' does nothing to support a child's healthy emotional development.

The key is trying to find that magic balance in life. I know this can be easier said than done. Knowing ourselves and our children is a great start. Keep in mind that what works for one family can be very different than what works for another. Give yourself - and your children - permission to breathe.

I hope that everyone has a safe, healthy, happy holiday season - no matter what that may look like for you and yours!

  

Encouraging Self Evaluation

One issue that we have been working through this year is the volume of the classroom. Let's face it - this group is loud! It's a busy kind of loud. Big ideas. Big emotions. Honestly, I have never had a class this loud which is kind of great because it has stretched me to reassess my thinking as a preschool educator and collaborate with others to discover new and more intentional strategies. These kinds of challenges are why I love teaching in the field of early education.

These kinds of challenges are also why I fall asleep on the couch around 8:15 every night.

But I digress.

So how could we go about changing the classroom volume in a constructive, positive, and child-centered way?

We started by holding a class meeting about the volume in the classroom: Is the volume working for us? (no) How do we know (too many reminders from teachers, can't hear my friends, etc.) Is this something we want to change? (yes)

We then discussed different volume levels at school (loud, indoor voices, whispers, no talking) and the times of day that appropriately matched each volume level (for example, treasure boxes should be completed in quiet whispers). One child had the realization that different volumes reminded him of a thermometer, so we created this visual to be posted in the classroom:

I'm not sure how our thermometer was made upside down. I'm doing everything in my power to quiet the OCD side of me and leave it be.

In the days that followed, we reviewed our volume thermometer at group time. I also carried it around during different times of the day and asked students where their voices were and, if changes were necessary, where should they be and how would they get there (which is so much more pleasant than saying 'shhhhh' all the time!). Plenty of review and modeling was provided.

As the children became more confident with this visual tool, a truly remarkable thing started to happen. They began self-evaluating their own volumes with no teacher intervention at all.

We watched as students went over to the chart and ran their finger down the thermometer: where is the volume right now? Where should it be?

We watched as students gave each other gentle reminders: you're in the red zone but you should be in the green zone.

We watched as students began to transfer the self-evaluation process to other areas in the classroom: did we stay in the green zone during lunch? thumbs up, to the side, or down?

As difficult as it may be, I always try my best to refrain from praising children in the moment for these actions. I really want them to take ownership and observe how their own actions can authentically and directly change the learning climate without adult validation. Praise is saved as a reflective learning tool during whole group instruction. As a result, the children begin to grow their own independence in preparation for the larger classroom and, eventually, the 'real world.'

This class constantly reminds me of the importance of child-centered education. Would we have attained the same powerful results if the teacher had simply made the rules for the children? Most likely not. To provide preschoolers with the tools to become their own autonomous learners is one of the greatest gifts we - as teachers and parents - can provide during these key developmental stages in their lives.

Process and Product

"My child used to do this coolest projects at her old school," said a parent during my first year teaching preschool.

"Like what?" I asked.

"At Halloween she made a bat hat that was so cute! I should show you the picture of her class with their bat hats. Oh, and they made this pillow for Mother's Day and she painted I Love My Mom on it. I still have it on my couch."

 At the time, all I could do was smile and nod (and try to hide some hurt feelings because of her implication that our projects were not "cool.").

It's actually taken me a while to fully grasp the reasons and importance behind our school's philosophy about art. And that is...

preschool art is not about the end result, or the product.  It is about the journey, or the process.

When a child is given materials and encouragement (rather than explanations and directions), they are free to create and explore using their own background knowledge and interests. Somewhere along the way they learn to make their own choices. They learn autonomy. They learn persistence and determination and resilience. They learn self-reflection. They learn to be risk takers. They learn that what they create may be different from others and that's okay.

By limiting the amount of adult micromanagement, children learn the value in the process of creating for creation sake. They begin to make their own judgments and require less adult feedback to feel validated and empowered. As our children continue throughout life, this intrinsic motivation and positive self talk is what is going to help them thrive.

Just to be clear, just because we focus on process art at preschool does not mean that I don't have several objectives for each activity in the back of my head. Rather than making sure that children put the appropriate number of legs on their spiders, I focus my attention on individual goals for individual children: For some children, I take note that they came on their own to even try the activity (unfamiliar can be intimidating!). For others, it's a success if they worked longer than one minute. For others, it's can they try it again but using a different technique? This list goes on and on.

As you can see, process art is not lazy or thoughtless. It's actually just the opposite.

Sometime art is messy and all over the place! It's multiple colors - all over each other - until they fill the entire paper and even the clips have to be moved because it just would not be done until every square inch of paper is covered!

Sometimes art is reflective and works to make sense of concepts being learned in the classroom and in life. It requires sitting down. Sometimes we can even see something that we recognize.

Sometimes art shows clear developmental stages, follows patterns, and is "neat." The take away here is this: no matter what art looks like, for preschoolers, it is always purposeful.

Check out this site for helpful ways to talk with your children about their art: http://creativityintherapy.com/2016/07/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-their-art/