Gun Play

We are working on storytelling right now which always brings up the age old question of gun play at school. Preschool-aged children - particularly boys, but not always - are like moths to a flame when it comes to guns. Research is all over the place as to why this occurs - whether it be an innate feeling to experience power, exposure to violence in the home, and/or influence of the media and other toys. Whatever the reason(s) may be, this fascination comes out in stories and all kinds of play.

Now, where we live, guns are kind of a taboo topic. Most people shudder at the thought of weapons of any sort - especially around young children - because they go against their core family values. Many consider guns to promote violence and suggest an ill will towards others. Perhaps parents worry that their gun-loving child may become a gun-loving adult.

Can we support a child's social and emotional growth and learning through play but tell them that certain topics should not be explored? How do we support students who do not like playing "with" guns when this play is all around them?

My own philosophy of violent play at school has changed throughout the last few years. Currently, I approach gun play at preschool in much the same way that I approach other "rules" in the classroom - to provide the tools for the children themselves to determine what should be allowed and what should not. While I used to have a "no guns" rule at school, I've found that this really didn't accomplish much at all. Rather, having a zero tolerance for guns actually created a significant increase in negative attention to those who often played this way - particularly, boys.

Reminding students about the two rules we came up with as a class - we are kind and we are safe - during gun play allows them the chance to decide if it should be permitted. For example, when a group of children are up on the boat 'shooting' their unconsenting peers below, we can talk about how we have the right to feel safe at school and, therefore, the game needs to change directions. On the other hand, when a group of children are playing 'good guys and bad guys' (which is another post entirely), and everyone feels safe playing the game, the game continues as is.

Sometimes these scenarios can be a little tricky, of course. Like the time a child was insisting he was shooting "love arrows" at everyone. Sigh.

Personally, I hate guns and find myself cringing when children shoot at each other. However, I also consider gun play to be developmentally appropriate within the preschool classroom and, therefore, must work hard to separate these conflicting beliefs. With proper modeling of non-violent behavior, sensitivity to those who prefer not to play this way, and open communication with families, I believe there can be a place for violent play in the early childhood setting.